***QUESTION***

Hey Dave....

I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your
newsletter for quite a while now. I've been meaning to buy
your book but im not in the habit of using a credit card so
ill have to open an account especially for this. Anyway,
i've been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is
smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed her was by
being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky funny. i was always one
step ahead of her. It was kind of like "Dont even TRY to
challenge me, im already inside your head!". everything was
cool. but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind of
got tired of the constant effort.....so i cooled it off a
bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just
who it is she's dealing with. And i think i got screwed.
Now i feel like i've turned into a wuss....and i HATE IT !!!
no..I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the macho act
she's a pussy cat again. You see i want someone to whom i
can genuinely be....just nice to, with her appreciating it
and NOT taking advantage. i mean since this is a long-term
relationship i want someone who will give me a smooth ride
without all that continuos maintenance. I dont wanna be
cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just
wants to relax. Is it possible??

F.Z, Lebanon

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ooooooo, good question.

I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be
Cocky and Funny and to stay in control change.

As they're learning the techniques, they become more and
more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing
woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league",
and they decide to start a relationship.

As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to
put aside the things that worked, and start being more
and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new
woman away.