But this doesn't mean that she can or would explain
to her boy how to make this happen with other women!

Now let's talk about what we can actually LEARN from
this kind of phenomenon.

The thing that really fascinates me about people is
THEIR ABILITY TO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT'S GOING ON IN PLAIN
SIGHT ALL AROUND THEM, AND EVEN ARGUE VIOLENTLY WHEN
IT'S PRESENTED TO THEM.

I've read some fascinating books about the concept
of "self-deception", and I've come to realize that we
humans have an amazing capacity for not seeing what's
there... to the point where it can be very bad for us.

This mechanism is, of course, a survival mechanism
that helps us to weed out all of the useless information
that's coming in through our senses at any given time,
but it can go overboard, and prevent us from seeing
USEFUL information as well.

Even worse, a lot of our cultural and social
programming is off-base to some degree, which causes
us to see things and interpret them incorrectly when
we do see them.

Finally, humans don't like to change their beliefs
about things. They don't like to admit that they might
be wrong in the first place, and they feel unstable or
insecure when they realize that a fundamental truth
they have held all their life is incorrect.