No matter what you do, you still must maintain a
balance.

So to answer your question about how to overcome
the objection to four kids...

First, realize that the women you're meeting fall
into roughly a few categories:

1) Those that aren't interested at all, no matter what.
Maybe they're gay, happily married, not interested...
or all of the above.

2) Those that are interested in being with you for some
short term fun, but aren't interested in a relationship
at all.

3) Those that are interested in short term fun while
they're single, but would like to pursue a relationship
if they meet a good match. Here we have two sub-
categories: A) Those that object to the four kids thing,
and B) Those that don't.