Are you with me here?

The problem is that "being yourself" for a lot of guys
means "being the type of guy that women don't feel any
ATTRACTION for".

If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION,
then there's really nothing I can do to help you. If
you're not willing to do the work and make the changes
more or less permanent, then you're going to have a long
uphill battle.

And in your case, you have to realize that this woman
was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that
REASON, then you're going to stop the ATTRACTION.