***QUESTION***

I recently have had several of the same experiences in the
club/bar scene. I'll get a nice conversation going with a
girl. We will have a few drinks, laugh and seem to connect.
This dance goes on for awhile. Out of nowhere the girl
will say that she is tired and leave. What does this mean?
How does a woman communicate that she wants you to leave
with here?

GC, WashDC

Try this: Sit down with a piece of paper and write down
ten ways that you can "Take the next step" in any given
situation. Then choose the one or two that you think will
work best, and mentally rehearse them until you can
CLEARLY SEE how they'll work in your mind's eye.

OR, you can download a copy of my eBook "Double Your
Dating". It comes with a bonus booklet called "Bridges"
which contains my favorite ways to take things from
one step to the next...

If you don't know how to handle each of them, you're VERY
likely to get hung up, not know what to do, and wind up
not doing ANYTHING to avoid the chance of screwing up.

Of course, not doing anything usually leads to a woman
thinking "He's a Wussy... can't even kiss me."

And on the other side, if you're too aggressive and "fast"
for her you might offend her and scare her off... RIGHT?

My solution is to create "Bridges" to get you from one
Critical Moment to the next... smoothly.

There are things you can do at each step that make it
NATURAL for things to progress.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I feel your pain on this one.

For the most part, men are expected to take ALL THE RISK of
being rejected at EVERY IMPORTANT STEP from the first meeting
to the bedroom.

And we always know when one of those risky situations is
staring us right between the eyes...

"Should I kiss her? Maybe she's not ready and I'll screw up
ALL of my chances with her."

"Should I call her so soon? What will she think?"

"How should I ask her out?"

...I get it. These are what I call "Critical Moments" or
"Moments Of Truth."

***QUESTION***

David,

I have been trying your cocky and funny stuff it works
like a charm But theres a problem with this one chick that i
like she is a flirt. whenever im around her she always be
flirting with me but the only problem is that i dont know
how to take the next step. if i take the next step im afraid
that shell probably move away. i dont wanna feel like a
dic*. so i wanna know how should i make a move on her and
not getting rejected. (I really need your advice)

-Student in NY, 21 years old

MY COMMENTS:

Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.

What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?

You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What do
I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!

But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the
money... ouch.

When she laughed you should have said "Well?"

And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:

"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."

STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.

It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.

Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest
and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy
and don't want to hurt their feelings...

MAILBAG: HOW TO AVOID BEING "JUST FRIENDS"

***QUESTION***

I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out with
one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung out.
everything was going good and i got her # by the end of the
night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club. we
got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a drink.
I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the laugh
and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i took
her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a
Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was goin
to call her the next week because i knew of a party the
following week. After calling her next week i had trouble
getting ahold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone. It
has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the
weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do u
see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?

thank you

Now that you have the idea, how can you adapt it to
your particular situation? Take some time to think about
it, and I think that you'll realize that you can use
reverse psychology in many different situations to
separate yourself from the crowd.

In my book "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire
section describing the exact character traits and
techniques that help to separate you from all the other
guys in the world.

I'll talk to you soon.

Your friend,

David D.

P.S. When you come to my website, make sure to read the
sample section about teasing to learn more about how to
use Reverse Psychology.

You can then continue to do one of my favorite things of
all time, and say "Hey, you seem nice... like you might
make a nice FRIEND. Give me your number and I'll call
you next week and maybe we can be FRIENDS."

I hope you understand what I'm saying here. By being
unusual and challenging, you immediately separate
yourself from the 'average' guy who just acts all
starstruck.

Now, this is just one example, and there are many
exceptions to this idea. If you look like Brad Pitt you
can say anything you want. And this type of approach
works best on VERY ATTRACTIVE women.

You probably realize that most of your communication is
not the words you use, but the body language and voice
tone that you use.

Well, it's important when you're meeting a woman for the
first time to stay cool, calm, and collected... and to
EVEN DO THINGS THAT SUGGEST THAT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED.

This will make her say "Hey, this guy isn't trying to
horn in on me... he seems DIFFERENT."

Let me ask you: Would you like to eat the same thing every
day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? I mean, even if you
got to have your very favorite food for all three meals it
would get old very fast.

The same goes here. Let me explain...

Let's say you're standing in line at the bank next to a
stunning woman. What would be the best approach to use to
open a conversation and get an email address, phone number
or a date?

Well, what most guys do is either:

1) Do nothing because they don't know what to do.

2) Say "You're beautiful" just like all the other guys.

3) Say "I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?"

Bad, bad, bad.

It would be MUCH better to say "Your shoe is untied" or
even "What time is it?" than any of these common, lame,
predictable comments or questions.

One of my favorite ways to use Reverse Psychology is
in situations with attractive women.

Most guys don't really think about the fact that most
attractive women are being told ALL THE TIME that they are
beautiful, attractive, stunning, etc.

And they don't realize that when they give an attractive
woman a compliment, it often backfires on them because
they are INSTANTLY seen as being the SAME as all the other
guys out there.

We humans like unique, interesting things... we don't like
the same old same old.

Interesting idea, isn't it?

Well, it doesn't really matter if you believe that
particular example. What does matter is that you learn
how to use the idea of Reverse Psychology to your
advantage when it comes to your success with women.

Reverse Psychology is powerful because it GOES AGAINST
COMMON LOGIC AND REASONING. Because of this, it's not
usually obvious (unless you make it obvious).

DATING TIP:

REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY ATTRACTS WOMEN
We all know what Reverse Psychology is, right?

Try this one on...

I once read that the surgeon general's warning on
cigarette packages may be one of the reasons why cigarettes
are so POPULAR.

Here's the logic: When a person sees that warning that is
telling them that it's dangerous to smoke, they think to
themselves "Hey, I'm living in the fast lane and I can
handle the danger... I'll show everyone how cool I am by
smoking these dangerous cigarettes..."