MY COMMENTS:

If you start to feel the INNER WUSS coming out, just remember

to LEAN BACK. Call less, see her less, and make yourself a

little less available.

Attractive women are used to being approached and pursued

all the time... you need to be different.

Of course, when you're alone with her, you need to take things

to the next level, and always advance.

But don't turn into a needy, clingy, emotional wreck.

Remember, LEAN BACK when you feel the INNER WUSS coming out.

hi David

I am an 18 yr old who thinks u are the BOMB. You have
given true Players a voice.. you are the "MESSENGER". I
have been reading your newsletters for over 7 months
now and you are spot on. This is the deal, there is this
really beautiful blonde i have been friends with for a
while now I see her out a lot at clubs(College). she
always wants to dance with me (i am a decent dancer) i
have been cocky funny la la the works but now i am in
trouble, this girl fancies me and i know it, how do i
work it so that i remain in control of the situation
without getting to WUSSY ?

M.N from London

...that's a little example of how I communicate with women
online. You need to be EXTREME with the humor online. Really
turn it up. The message you're communicating is "I must be
a pretty confident and interesting guy to say that I'm four
foot eleven and weigh 345..." Get it?

Try being over-the-top Cocky and Funny. It's fun, and it works
like a charm.

Sure. As a matter of fact, let me tease you a bit...

In my Los Angeles seminar last month, I included a whole
section on meeting women online (to go along with the portion
of the seminar where I TAUGHT everyone how to do it)...

I included several examples of things I've done PERSONALLY,
with exact transcripts, profiles, etc. Here's a little piece
of a conversation I had online with a woman awhile back,
right from the workbook:

HER: what do you look like
ME: I'm 4' 11 and I weigh 345
HER: lol, what ever
ME: I have long facial hair and a hairy back too
HER: what do you really look like
ME: Hold a sec.
HER: k
ME: Read your mail
HER: not bad
ME: I don't recall asking for your opinion

I bought the book, and it makes a lot of sense. Would
you give some examples of how an online meeting/conversation
on a personals board might go? I need a little help in the
imagination department.

LOL!

[That's "laughing out loud" in internet-talk]

What are you doing whining about the techniques before
you've even tried them!?

From your short email I can guess the following:

1) You don't have a lot of success with women.

2) You over-analyse things instead of just going out
there and trying them yourself.

3) You need to download a copy of my book before you
die of no-date-itis (It's less than a meg total, not a
huge file at all). http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

The concepts work with women of all ages. Will you do
yourself a favor and quit arguing in your mind... and
get out there and TRY IT!

OK Dave,

I have read all these news letters and it
sounds interesting... but, I don't want a girl. I DON'T
WANT A BOY EITHER BY THE WAY! I want a woman! These
tactics seem so juvenile and childish. Something that
a high schooler would be intrigued by. What's in it
for the guy that is not into child's play. Other
useful information is how many megs of memory do I
need to get all the "books"?

gj

I'm betting that the men that this 23 year old Italian
college student/waitress is referring to have something
about them that is MORE than just their "looks". (By the
way, if you're reading this right now, please email me
again to confirm this)...

See, women are about ten times better at using body
language to communicate than men.

Next time you're out with a woman, point to a couple
and say "What's going on between them". You won't
believe all the body language she'll point out and
then interpret for you.

The point I'm trying to make here is that you can go
BEYOND just learning techniques to "approach" women.
You can actually learn how to get them to approach
you... really. It's all about body language... and
how you use it to communicate all the time (because
you are, in fact, communicating at all times... you
can't NOT communicate).

And as for you, my poor Italian 23 year old college
student and waitress...

Just walk up to a guy and say "Give me your number...
and MAYBE I'll call you sometime."

MY COMMENTS:

Sorry, but I'm only using your email for the benefit of
myself and my MALE readers... lol. (Maybe I'll find it
in my heart to give you some advice after I'm finished
taking ruthless advantage of you...)

This email is very interesting to me because I have a
few friends who are VERY good with women who have
STOPPED APPROACHING WOMEN ALTOGETHER.

That's right, they don't approach women anymore, but
they're AMAZINGLY successful with them.

These guys have taken their skills, personalities, body
language, and communication skills to a level where
women actually want them before they've even spoken!

FROM A WOMAN

Hi, i'm M. (from Italy: here to visit my family),
I'm 23 college student / waitress; judging by the e-mails
you been sending my brother about picking up women, it
seems as if you know what you're talking about, but being
a women I usually rely on guys just approaching me, but
there's a problem. Although I get my share of guys
approaching me, there is always one that I would have my
eye on that will NOT approach me... this seems to be
happening time and time again. I don't know if you're an
expert on THIS side of the field but I try to get his
attention by going a little closer, but it doesn't seem
to work. This is extremely frustrating to me, if you gave
me any explanation I would be very happy.

If she just wants to TALK about it, say "I'll tell you
what, I think that you'd be better off talking to a
girlfriend about this, because I don't want to turn
into an old married couple so soon."

There's a fine line between being a cold human being
and letting her know that you're not her personal
free therapist.

Personal free therapists who "listen" are thought of as
WUSSY-BOY-GIRLIE-MAN-FRIENDS (as you well know)... and
their behavior doen NOT create ATTRACTION.

This is an AWESOME example of how to be COCKY AND FUNNY!

You're the man. My hero even.

To answer your question...

This is one of those issues that doesn't have a "right"
answer, but in GENERAL it's not a good idea to be the
"girlfriend" early on in the game.

After date number 10 do whatever you want. (In other
words, it's safer to help her with a situation like this
without being unconsciously thought of as "girlfriend-
man" later in the relationship. Just don't do it too
often or you'll become a Wuss candidate.)

Here's a good way to deal with "a woman that you're
getting to know who wants help with her problems":

As soon as you hear the "I have a problem and want
someone to talk to about it" tone of voice, IMMEDIATELY
ask "Is this something you want to solve or is it
something you want to just TALK about?"

My question is last night she really needed someone to
talk to, a lot of personal family issues to deal with.
Of course I lent and ear and in the end she felt a lot
better. But back when I was a wussy I used to do this
for women all the time, and as you can quite well
imagine I was always the 'friend'. Any thoughts?

David, "the Man" Cocky funny works like magic. I was
trying to pick up a former Teacher Assistant of mine at
university for about a year. Sending nice email after
nice email, and getting totally stood up and/or blown
off. So I took the cf to the extreme. "I know you're
scared of meeting such an intelligent charismatic
rockstar like myself, because you'll fall so hopelessly
in love you couldn't take the rejection, fall into
habitual drinking, and eventually kill yourself... but
really its okay I'll treat you like an ass and you'll
hate me, and life will go on" Totally worked, the next
week she met me, and we hit it off really well, I kept up

***QUESTION***

David, "the Man" Cocky funny works like magic. I was
trying to pick up a former Teacher Assistant of mine at
university for about a year. Sending nice email after
nice email, and getting totally stood up and/or blown
off. So I took the cf to the extreme. "I know you're
scared of meeting such an intelligent charismatic
rockstar like myself, because you'll fall so hopelessly
in love you couldn't take the rejection, fall into
habitual drinking, and eventually kill yourself... but
really its okay I'll treat you like an ass and you'll
hate me, and life will go on" Totally worked, the next
week she met me, and we hit it off really well, I kept up
the cf routine and we've been having a blast together.

MY COMMENTS:

As for the girl who gave you the "message service", you
need to interpret that as follows:

She didn't find you interesting enough to give you her
REAL number. That's OK, you're doing a great job... but
you need to get EMAILS and REAL NUMBERS in the future.

One thing you can do is say "Is this a phone that you
actually answer in person?" If not, then give it back
to her and say "It's OK, give me your number."

When a woman asks your age, just say "Old enough to
know better than answer a question like that one...
how old are YOU?"

If they insist, just add 20 to your age and tell them
that. Be serious about it and really bust their balls.

Keep it up, you're probably close to a breakthrough!

1) With the girl, who gave me her message service
number and situations like this how many time would
you say call. Before you say she is not interested -
Next. ( I did leave cocky funny messages )

2) The area i live in, the girls always wanting to
know my age. As per-book. I have tried to avoid a
direct answer. How about a cocky funny response, as i
tried a few of my own. But so far nothing works.

Many Thanks,

Nice Guy on the Jedi Road.

Hi Dave,

After reading your emails for a few months. I decided
to go the whole hog and buy your book. I have had some
success, after reading your book. I have come over
most of my fear about talking to woman. I did get one
girl's number, but it was a message service. I tried
calling her a few times. But never got hold of her. I
have also just gone to the local bar, with the idea:
"Ok i am not looking for a girlfriend, i am just going
to have a good time. Be cocky and funny..." so far i am
getting mixed reactions. So i have a couple of questions.

MY COMMENTS:

It means that you should STOP doing the following:

1) Having "nice" conversation.

2) Having a few drinks.

3) Laugh and "seem to connect".

And you should START doing the following:

1) Focus on getting emails and phone numbers, not getting
"nice conversation."

2) Avoid "having drinks". Instead have FOCUS (on your
outcome of getting her info).

3) Talk for a minute or two, then tell her that it was
nice meeting her, but you're going to get back to your
friends. Then turn around and say "Hey! Do you have
email?" Take out a pen and have her write it down.

When you're at a club, it's SOOOOO much easier to get
10 emails and numbers, then follow up later than to try
to land the big fish that night. Once you're the super-
duper-mack-daddy-from-hell you can go back to chat and
drinks... but for now get the info!

You'll find that things work a lot better when you're
having a conversation with her ALONE over a cup of tea
rather than in a loud bar full of sexually frustrated,
drunk men who want to show off and fight over women.