***QUESTION***

Hey Dave....

I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your
newsletter for quite a while now. I've been meaning to buy
your book but im not in the habit of using a credit card so
ill have to open an account especially for this. Anyway,
i've been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is
smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed her was by
being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky funny. i was always one
step ahead of her. It was kind of like "Dont even TRY to
challenge me, im already inside your head!". everything was
cool. but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind of
got tired of the constant effort.....so i cooled it off a
bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just
who it is she's dealing with. And i think i got screwed.
Now i feel like i've turned into a wuss....and i HATE IT !!!
no..I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the macho act
she's a pussy cat again. You see i want someone to whom i
can genuinely be....just nice to, with her appreciating it
and NOT taking advantage. i mean since this is a long-term
relationship i want someone who will give me a smooth ride
without all that continuos maintenance. I dont wanna be
cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just
wants to relax. Is it possible??

F.Z, Lebanon

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ooooooo, good question.

I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be
Cocky and Funny and to stay in control change.

As they're learning the techniques, they become more and
more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing
woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league",
and they decide to start a relationship.

As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to
put aside the things that worked, and start being more
and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new
woman away.

E from NYC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It's interesting, because I actually discovered the Cocky
and Funny technique by watching guys who were good with
women. In fact, a guy who is now a good friend was trying
to explain the concept to me a few years back... and he
was the first one to say "Cocky and Funny". Of course, I
had no idea what he was talking about at the time. It
really made no sense to me.

But after I started working with it and watching other
guys who were really successful with women, I learned
how it worked.

It sounds like you're really getting it - congrats!

As for your questions...

Don't worry about being able to "come up with enough
lines to keep up a conversation". Just do what you can,
and enjoy yourself. A few Cocky and Funny lines used
here and there are MUCH better than nothing at all.

If you feel like approaching strangers, great. If you
just realize that most women are going to be nice, but
some will be either unavailable or unfriendly then
you'll be fine. I have personally had great success
meeting "strangers", and as my good friend Rick says:
Every friend you have started out as a stranger...

And as for the "5 project girls", you're cracking me
up over here. If you like the idea of staying single
and dating a lot of different women, then this is the
way to do it! Just make sure they don't turn into your
personal "psychological projects".

Thanks for your email.

Hey -

I am 18 years old and just graduated high school. I used to
be a MAJOR wuss and when I was younger I was always a shy
kid who was picked on a lot because I was a short, skinny kid
that never stood up for myself. And worst of all, I never
took advantage of high school to get girls! I started
getting your newsletter earlier this year and the cocky +
funny attitude changed my life in more ways than one. I hang
out with guys that get the hottest high school girls you can
ever imagine. Not only do they get 9's and 10's, I see
these girls obsess over them. I was around them so much
that I tried to model thier behavior around girls and I
noticed that EVERYTHING you preach about, comes to them
NATURALLY. Every tip of advice you’ve given to guys ACTUALLY
works, and Ive seen it first hand.

I started using cocky + funny myself and even use lines
that Ive seen my friends use in past cases. I saw a HOT
girl in the mall and she was checking herself out in a
pocket mirror so I said "don’t worry, your hair doesn’t look
THATTT bad". She started laughing even though I just made
fun of her! I asked for her email and when she said she
doenst have the internet, I used your line "well do you have
electricity"? AGAIN the girl laughed, and I ended up
getting her phone # and I hooked up with her that weekend!

MY QUESTION - my natural personality has transformed
from a wussy shy nice kid to a guy that’s gonna bust your
balls, but a nice guy at heart. I made a lot more girl
"friends" too, but whenever they try to tell me their sad
stories, I let them know Im not their boyfriend and do not
care. Whenever I gain the courage to use cocky+funny, it
WORKS but my problem is even though I’ve seen this work in
action, I fear I don’t know enough cocky+funny lines to keep
up a conversation with a girl. Also, do you recommend
hitting on random strangers you see, because my friends say
they never really hit on strangers unless they have a
reason to go up and talk to them. My friends also say to
ALWAYS have 5 "project girls" and never focus on one girl.
Is this true? please write back.

The way to keep improving and becoming more successful
is to putting innovative ideas into your mind. You must
continue to learn in order to continually become better.

And on that note, if you haven't downloaded your copy
of my online eBook, then you're missing out on one of the
best learning opportunities there is in the area of meeting
and dating women.

And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a
friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter.
They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

MAILBAG: GREAT TECHNIQUES FOR ATTRACTING WOMEN
THE MAILBAG: Great Techniques For Attracting Women

If you can't think of something original in the moment,
then you have something to do that will work well. If you
don't do this, you'll wind up hesitating and losing all kinds
of opportunities.

The journal is a great place to write down all of your
"default" techniques, plan them out, and organize them for
easy refreshing.

3) Put negative experiences into proper perspective.

When you have a negative emotional experience, it can be
intense... and it can have an impact on your behavior. It's
important to remember that just because you had a negative
experience doesn't necessarily meant that you did something
wrong.

The best stock traders lose money on many trades.

The best sports stars lose games often.

The best weather forecasters are often wrong.

But do they let temporary setbacks deter them from
being successful?

Of course not. They get right back on track and keep
going.

If you get turned down for a date, or a woman stops
calling you back, or a woman says that you're a rude and
arrogant bastard because you made fun of her... you need
to stop and think about the situation.

If you're successful most of the other times, then you
need to decide if this was because you're truly not doing
the right thing or if it was just one of those situations
that happens once in awhile.

I heard a great quote awhile back, but I can't remember
who originally said it or wrote it:

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure
is trying to please everyone."

4) Keep learning all the time. If you stop learning new
things, your mind starts becoming set in it's ways.

Just remember to write down things that work for you.

You might be out for tea with a woman, and casually bring
up a book you read about unusual sexual practices... and
notice that it gets a great response. Write it down in the
"interesting ideas" section of your journal so you remember
to try it again. (I haven't tried this particular one, but
I have found that women love to talk about sex in general)

The point is that if you keep a record of all the best
things you do, then you can look back at it and refresh
your memory any time you want. It's a great idea, and I
do it. It's one of the single best things I've done to
improve quickly with women.

2) Have one good default thing to do for every common
situation. Have one way to start conversations, one way
to get emails and numbers, one great place to go for a
tea/coffee meeting, etc.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have always found situations like yours fascinating.

It seems to me that a lot of times, we know exactly what
to do to get the results we want... but for whatever reason
we just don't do it.

Here are some common reasons for this:

1) We get bored. Boredom is one of the most common causes
of failure in my experience. Here's how it works: You start
doing something, get great success, but start to think that
you need to do something new because YOU'RE getting bored
with it... not because others are.

2) A negative emotional experience. When a negative
experience is coupled with a strong emotion, it creates a
deep IMPRINT. In your case, you were accused of being
"egotistical". I'm assuming that for whatever reason this
caused you to feel BAD, which led to you deciding that you
needed to behave differently.

3) By trying to make small improvements we lose the original
formula that created success... or we just plain evolve to
a different strategy that turns out to not be as successful.
I've done this many times in my life. By trying to make
something better I actually make it worse.

4) Just plain forgetting. Let's say that you are single, and
you're going out a lot, meeting a lot of women, and really
having a lot of success. Then let's say you meet a really
nice woman and have a relationship for two years... but then
break up. It's easy to forget all of the little nuances that
made you successful in the past... and to just "start over"
from scratch.

5) Feeling like we need to be original and unique in every
situation. I've watched many, many situations where a guy
will see a woman that he'd like to meet, but he doesn't know
what to say to her to start a conversation because he feels
like he needs to come up with something catchy and original.

Of course, there are more reasons than this, but these
are some of the most common ones I see.

So what's the answer? What can you do to avoid losing
the great game that you've created?

Here are a few techniques that I and some of my friends
use:

1) Keep a journal. I know, I know... you don't want to
look like a homeless poet or some out-of-work screenwriter
sitting in a cafe with nothing better to do than write to
yourself...

But keeping a journal of your best ideas and how they've
worked is a GREAT idea. You don't have to get fancy, and you
don't need to take a lot of time with this.

Hi, I've been getting your letter in my e-mail for a while
now, one thing that I don't understand is the Kissing Test.
How do you do it? I must have missed something, but I'm
curious from all of the success stories that use it.

Thx. (You da man)
E.L. OK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Just go to my main website and enter again. It's on the very
first page after the entry page.



***QUESTION***

David,

I've been having some really good success getting women from
online personal ads to respond. I used your formula, modified
with some of my own material.

Then I follow up with my email version of cocky&funny. I
wanted to share a recent email that I received:

"You've managed to intrigue me. Give me a call when you get a
chance...555-1234

I like your confidence!
M."

This was just her 2nd email to me. And I didn't even have to
ASK her for her #, she just volunteered it. I'll be calling
her this evening. Obviously, I have changed her phone number -
I don't want all your subscribers calling her too!

Here's my question:

Many times she won't volunteer her #. In your book, you
suggest that the next step is to get her number so you can set
up a meeting. I have found that sometimes you can skip the #
part and arrange the meeting via email. But some women are
more open to this than others. Is there a good rule of thumb
here?

Thanks for everything,

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good job.

I personally like to email first, then have a telephone
conversation. I think that the email establishes an
interesting and unusual relationship... and the telephone
firms it up and is a better way to set up the next meeting.

I've tried all kinds of combinations, and this is my
personal experience.

Email first, then call to set up the meeting.

You're doing a great job, and thanks for your email!

...and if you're reading this right now and saying to
yourself:

"You know, it sure would be cool to get this part of my
life handled and to figure out how to actually make women
feel attracted to me..."

...then I'd recommend that you go and download a copy of
my online eBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should
Know About How To Be Successful With Women". It's jam
packed with all of my very best ideas and techniques for
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It's not a bunch of recycled pickup lines and stupid
ideas that you don't work. It's taken me years to figure
it all out, and you won't find the materials anywhere
else.

Best part? 100% money-back guarantee. If you're not
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that simple. Just go to:

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...now and download it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.



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***COMMENT***

Hi Dave,

I have been reading your emails for some time and have found
them most enlightening.

Something you wrote in your last Mailbag - How to avoid
being "Just Friends", caught my attention. You mentioned
that some friends you knew, now no longer need to approach
women.

I went through a stage when I was younger, 16, 17 & 18,
where I knew I didn't need to talk to women. I'd be with
friends at the shopping mall, where I'd have girls asking me
my name, phone number etc. I was always noticed, which I
knew had something to do with my body language and the way
I conducted myself.

This was all very well until I took a fall from grace after
being accused of being egotistical, and then spent the last
few years searching for this confidence that I'd lost.
Unsuccessfully.

After reading your column, I used your cocky funny theory to
chat with a few women and suddenly found my feet again, it
was amazing. Like jumping back on a bike after years of
driving a car.

I recently started a new job in which I knew I was not going
to stay. I asked out the most attractive woman in the
company, knowing I had nothing to lose, I have been out with
her once and now have her wanting to go out again, after
I've left.

Now I'm iching to get out again on the weekend and meet some
more hotties.

I do have some advice for your readers, don't sit there on
sidelines, put yourself in the game, playing is the only
way to learn.

Thanks,

The new master
Sydney, Australia