Well, first I have to ask you... Does she feel ATTRACTION
for you?

When you talk to her now, does she flirt with you?

Next time you talk to her, say:

"You know, I know you want me. It took you 8 months to
finally get up the nerve to admit it, huh?"

See what she says. Bust on her and tease her about how
you know she's been trying to figure out how to get
with you all this time, and see how she responds.

Then, when you're alone with her, lean back, bust on
her, have fun, etc. When you're alone, use the Kiss Test.

You'll figure it out soon enough.

Just make sure you don't ASK her. No, no, no.

No Wussy behavior please!

Now then Dave,

I'll keep it short but first want to echo the feelings of
everyone else on this e-mail by thanking you, your advice is
seriously changing my life. Your stuff is great for people
you've just met or that don't know you to well. However, I've
just got back in contact with a girl I used to work with 8
months ago. We got on great and regularly went for coffee on
our lunch breaks, so knew each other well. The only problem
was that at the time she was in a relationship, so I had to
fight the attraction I felt towards her. I have now found
out that this has recently finished and want to make a move
on her in the near future before someone else snaps her up.
I've been 'cocky and funny' with her since we met, so that
approach may be less effective than usual. Can you please
give me some tips in how to take this further than just
friendship.

RW

England

You might get sick the first 5 times, depending on
how deeply-rooted your fears are, but this will help
you get over it.

Part of the problem is that you don't know what to
expect. It sounds to me like you really don't know
how women will respond to you.

By approaching a lot of women one day, you'll find
out that women are usually pretty nice, and you'll
be able to handle whatever happens.

Otherwise, use one of the ideas I gave you above to make
meeting women easier. It might be a good place to start.

MY COMMENTS:

If it freaks you out too much to approach women in
public, then figure out how to meet them in other ways.

Get online and start instant messaging women...

Go to a pottery or yoga class (if those things interest
you)...

Get a part-time job as a bartender.

Take dance lessons.

There are all kinds of great ways to meet women...

By the way, one of the best things you can do is get
together with a friend, and go out for a day and
meet 50 women. Just approach every single woman you
see and use one of the techniques you've learned.

Then go do it again.

If it freaks you out too much to approach women in
public, then figure out how to meet them in other ways.

Get online and start instant messaging women...

Go to a pottery or yoga class (if those things interest
you)...

Get a part-time job as a bartender.

Take dance lessons.

There are all kinds of great ways to meet women...

By the way, one of the best things you can do is get
together with a friend, and go out for a day and
meet 50 women. Just approach every single woman you
see and use one of the techniques you've learned.

Then go do it again.

You might get sick the first 5 times, depending on
how deeply-rooted your fears are, but this will help
you get over it.

Part of the problem is that you don't know what to
expect. It sounds to me like you really don't know
how women will respond to you.

By approaching a lot of women one day, you'll find
out that women are usually pretty nice, and you'll
be able to handle whatever happens.

Otherwise, use one of the ideas I gave you above to make
meeting women easier. It might be a good place to start.

QUESTION***

Hello, I do agree with the Cocky Funny in theory.
However for me it is proving to be difficult in
practice. One of the biggest hurdles for me seem
to be the initial walkup. I am a very shy, nervous,
and easily embarrassed person. Often when I see a
beautiful women my heart starts to thump and my hands
sweat, and face goes red. I have had 2 opportunities
in the past few weeks where I had women come up to me
to ask me for something, once for directions, and once
for a light. I can think of a few things after these
happened, like I could have told the girl asking for a
lighter "those things are bad for you, you
know"....The girl asking for directions was a golden
opportunity missed, I could have been more detailed and
then got her email, but instead I just kind of froze
up and gave her quick instructions. When this happens
I start to get regrets and beat myself up for not
thinking more on my toes.

I do think that places outside of nightclubs are good,
because women don't expect it, and you catch them
off guard, but I was on the tub this morning (subway in
the USA) and saw this absolutely stunning Brazilian, I
thought perhaps I could do the "are you single, my
friend would like you" but all the people around me
made me hesitate and put it off. If I had done it
right at the beginning instead of oogling her in
disbelief I probably could of done it.

For me at this point, just to make an attempt would be
good to give me a boost. I realize I have become such
a wuss. How do I get out of this nervous rut which
keeps me from going for the women of my dreams.

J.P in London

MY COMMENTS:

Wow, another sad, sad story. Makes me weep.

Women chasing you around like groupies and acting like
slaves... you poor thing.

Well, I do actually know what you're talking about.

Here's the deal...

Most women are used to being in CONTROL of men. And when
a guy like you shows up and uses his magical powers of
COCKY AND FUNNY, they are taken off guard.

You are pressing the ATTRACTION button inside of a
woman, which has an interesting side effect when done
with Cocky and Funny:

IT MAKES THE WOMAN ACT LIKE A WUSSY!

This is a tough one for most guys to buy, but it's the
absolute truth... and you know what I'm talking about.

When a woman realizes that she's not going to control
you... and in fact, that she's feeling ATTRACTED to you
and she doesn't know how to handle you, SHE'LL start
getting nervous.

And in my experience, there are only a very FEW
exceptional women out there in the world. I think that
you just need to keep up the search. You'll find yourself
a firecracker if that's what you're looking for.

I personally believe that it's important to understand
this stuff NOT just because you can meet a lot of women
using it...

I think that IT'S TOUGH TO FIND AN EXCEPTIONAL WOMAN
these days, and you're probably going to have to date
quite a few to find one. Knowing these techniques will
help you see through tough exterior female personas,
and start making you realize what you actually want in
a woman.

*QUESTION*

Hello David. Well, let me put it this way: I got your
book, and it made a HUGE impact on my life. I'd like to
assure anyone who doubts you that you are not full of crap,
you really know your stuff. Anyway, I have a little
problem, and since I feel you've mastered the understanding
of the minds of women, I need your help. First of all,
I've always had a razor-sharp wit, but I didn't have the
confidence to show it to most women, and instead felt sorry
for myself that women never got to see the real me. Now,
once I was introduced to you and learned the whole cocky
routine and seen it's effects, my confidence is sky high.
I charm women like you wouldn't believe... while I was
happy with this at first, it seems that I have gotten TOO
good with women. I know I sound awfully full of myself,
but... here's the scoop. When I use my dazzling charm
combined with cockiness, new women that i meet CAVE IN to
me and become my WHIPPED SLAVE after a short period of time.
They lose their sassy and fun personalities, and become
obsessed slaves that would do anything to please me. while
its sometimes flattering, overall I do not like this. Don't
get me wrong, I want them to want me, but I DON'T want them
to become my drooling little groupies who think about me
when they get up and eat breakfast and are still thinking
about me when they get under the covers at night... it seems
like their obsessions sap their personality. What I was
wondering was whether or not you knew a SPECIFIC BEHAVIOR or
trait that i may be amplifying that causes women to react this
way... I want to TONE DOWN whatever it is that's getting them
to drop their religion and worship me.. any help appreciated.
by the way, i am NOT EVEN EXAGGERATING, i really do see
myself as TOO sexy and its ANNOYING.. i want women to be
challenging again! (P.S: while im not ugly, i sure as hell
am not the type of guy that girls whisper and giggle about
upon first glance... so don’t attribute any of this to my
looks)

I have a question for you...

"What if you COULD picture yourself seeing a gorgeous woman
somewhere and just starting some kind of conversation with
her out of nowhere?"

Is the problem that you can't picture it? Or is the problem
that you won't just DO IT?

I mean, what do you think is going to happen?

Do you think that gorgeous women have magical powers and
she might turn you into a frog or something?

Here, try this:

Next time you see a beautiful woman, walk over and say:

"Excuse me, can I ask you a question? I'm trying to
overcome my shyness, and it's my goal to ask five women
today what it takes for them to feel attracted to a man.
Do you prefer it when guys try to BUY your attention with
gifts and food, or do you prefer it when a guy teases you,
makes fun, makes you laugh, and keeps you guessing about
what's going to come next?"

Don't even worry about getting emails, numbers, and dates.
Just go ask that question.

As a homework assignment, go ask 100 women this question.
You'll see that women aren't so scary after all, and you
will get some really interesting answers from them.

Now, I don't usually advise asking women for advice on
women... but in this case I'm not telling you to ask
for advice for advice's sake. You're overcoming shyness
at the same time.

After you ask the first 50, I want you to try something
new...

After you ask the question, and she answers, I want you
to say "Because, you know, I'm really tired of women
just treating me like a piece of meat... like some kind
of sex symbol or something. I need to understand what
I can do so a woman likes me for WHO I AM!" ...in a
serious, sarcastic, Cocky and Funny way.

Watch the responses you get. You'll have fun.

David,

Hi i have been reading your newsletter for about two months
now and i really wish i could tell you that i've had
outstanding success with the cocky and funny approach but
im afraid i cant. You see i just cant even picture myself
seeing a gorgeous woman somewhere and just starting some
kind of conversation with her out of no where like that. I
get really nervous around women and never know what to say
to them. And i just can't help but see myself get rejected
by her and all the different ways she can turn me down.
Any suggestions?

M. from AZ

OK, your problem is simple.

YOU SPENT TOO MUCH TIME TALKING TO HER AT THE BEGINNING.

As a rule of thumb, when you first meet a girl, DON'T
talk to her more than once or twice a week, and don't
SEE her more than once or twice a week.

If you're chatting online, don't chat more than a couple
of times a week.

And DON'T talk for hours and hours and hours in ANY of
these situations!

Why not?

Because when you talk for hours, you start talking about
all kinds of WUSSY things.

Do yourself a favor next time...

After a woman comes over to your house and gets physical
with you, LEAN BACK.

Don't call the next day and talk hot and heavy. Give it
some time and space.

Here's one of my favorite quotes:

"Give her the gift of missing you."

I love that quote.

I wrote it.

OK, I think you get the point. Stop acting like a needy
WUSS BOY, and start leaning back, being unpredictable,
and GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU when you're in a
similar situation in the future.

David,

Hey there! Thanks for the tips/advice so far. I have
an interesting story about an amazing girl i met online...
we started chatting and we hit it off so well that we
chatted for many hours the first day and by the end of the
second day she wanted me to call her and i did and then by
the end of the week she wanted to meet me and she came
over to my house and well we kinda got straight into it
(everything but sex)...anyways the next day i called her
and we were still talking pretty hot and heavy etc...and
we kept this up for a couple of days and we were supposed
to meet again (to go to a movie) but then she backed out
and said she wanted to slow it down...i kinda figured this
was the end of it and i was feelign pretty shitty (she's
a hot ass stipper for god's sake!) and i was kinda
confused and then she emails me the next day...i hold off
responding for a sec cause i'm confused and then she sends
me another email late at night telling me to call her so i
did and she tells me how she wants to "cuddle" etc... and
i'm kinda acting a little distant maybe cause i'm confused
about what the hell she wants ands then all of a sudden
she turns on me like that and doesn't want anything to do
with me whatsoever... and now she won't respond to my
emails or calls...what the hell can i do to get her again
cause i totally want to party with her!

Thanks man... help me!

want more of her

MY COMMENTS:

You horrible man!

You actually tell women that you're BUSY, and hang up so
you can go back to watching SPORTSCENTER?

You're killing me over here.

I can't believe it, I think you're one of about five men
alive that have gotten to the point where you don't need
to stop everything just for a little attention from a
woman!

Hell, I'm starting to feel attracted to you.

Easy, boy.

You are doing EXACTLY the right things. Keep it up.

Being unpredictable, hard to reach, and mysterious is
MAGIC when it comes to creating ATTRACTION.

Of course, no technique is perfect, and if you do these
things long enough you will have something come up as
a result. But overall, this is a WINNING combination.

If and when you do have a problem or setback, don't
worry about it. These things happen. You'll have so
much success that it won't matter.

As a side note, I want to mention a quick little
something...

I think that there's a line between doing things that
make women feel attracted to you so you can enjoy a
more interesting romantic life and actually give women
what they want...

And using the ideas you're learning purely to manipulate
women into doing things.

Most women would really prefer if guys would do this
stuff and be more interesting, but there's a danger of
using this information, and making people into toys.

Hey

I have been a subscriber of your newsletter for a while
now. I have pretty much perfected your techniques and have
had tremendous success with them. One thing I recently
realized is that after you have them hooked you can keep
them on the line even more by using strange timing for
telephone calls etc. What I mean by this is that I have
found it beneficial to return their calls at weird hours
when you wouldn't expect them to be home or awake if they
are so that you leave a message. Then when they call about
half the time all I do is pick up the phone and say "can't
talk sorry bye," hang up, and go back to watching
sportscenter. The girls who are calling obviously want to
see more of you, so being hard to reach makes the game all
the livelier. If you mix being hard to reach with the
occasional phone call it seems like a shortcut to taking
it to a more physical level because they aren't sure when
they will see you next. I was wondering if you have used
this and if you think it is a good idea or if there is some
unforeseen way this could backfire?

Thanks.

Z

MY COMMENTS:

Ah, isn't it exciting when you do something that you NEVER
would have done in the past... and it WORKS!?

Of course, you're just getting started... you're going to
take things to a whole new level, I'm sure.

Just make sure that you don't start calling this girl
every 20 minutes, and that you give her space to miss you
and think about you.

Keep it up.

Dear Dave

I downloaded your book and all I can say is WOW! I was blind
and now I see. I've always been known as a "nice" guy and
looking back I can see how much of a wuss I really was.
Here's the story. Some friends of mine and I go on a camping
trip every year. This year one guy brought a surprisingly
attractive 20-something with him.(I'm 36). Later that night
she and I were the last ones sitting around the fire after
everyone else had crashed. We had a few drinks and I found
out that she and my friend were not a couple. Then she came
out and said that she knew that I was attracted to her but
that I "wasn't her type". Before your book I would have
become embarrassed and tucked my tail between my legs and
fled. Instead I turned it around on her and started busting
her balls using C&F. We ended up talking until the sun came
up and when it came time for her and my friend to leave she
asked me if I had a pen. She gave me her phone #(I never
even asked for it) and asked me for mine. That never would
have happened in my previous life! Everyone out there: Get
this book!

Thanks Dave!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your email.

I know, I know... it's soooo easy to do the wrong things
with women and NOT EVEN REALIZE THAT YOU'RE DOING THEM.

Unless you get clued-in about how this game works, it's
very difficult to figure this stuff out by "trial and
error".

Keep up the great work.

hey dave

just to let you know that your stuff is genius...Ive never
had so much success before. I used to do EXACTLY what not
to do, in fact i didnt do anything right. You see I was
the "Nice Guy" I kissed girls asses to make them like me,
and i could never figure out why they acted ignorant and
ignored me. Now thanks to you man i figured out what I
did wrong. I now have confidence and i am willing to talk
to chicks i never would before. Just wanted to thank you
for all you have done for us, i speak for everyone when I
say that you are the man. I hope that every man knows
this stuff, but if not more women for us right?

-J

MY COMMENTS:

Let me drop the knowledge...

First of all, get used to attractive women sending you
mixed signals. It's part of life.

One of the reasons why a woman will be "all over you
one day but cold the next" is because during the time
she was "all over you", YOU ACTED LIKE A WUSS.

A lot of guys don't get this.

They get all upset because a girl was friendly one day,
but totally acted different the next.

What often happens is something like this:

1) You do the right things, and make her feel ATTRACTION.

2) She starts acting affectionate. Maybe you make out.

3) You start saying "Wow, I really like you" etc. and act
all smitten with her to her face too early on instead of
just leaning back, enjoying, and playing it cool.

4) She CHANGES HER MIND and sees you in a different light
because you turned into a WUSS right before her very eyes.

You feel me?

Better way: Keep doing what you know works. Keep leaning
back, being unpredictable, playing hard to get, etc. And
don't start acting smitten too early on!

Sup Dave,

Man you got some skillz with the ladies. I'm
learning so much from you, now friends are asking me for
'advice', that's wild. Well for the past couple of weeks i
just decided to give the cocky and funny thing a try, to
great reviews from the ladies. I was getting tired of
hearing "you are such a nice kid." My problem is trying to
figure out if i went too far with joking with this girl.
in her book i wrote " what's up girl, i can't lie, you
look good, almost as good as me (haha). Give me a call so
we can chill, go to the movies, makeout...whatever. It was
tight being in classes w/ you, your energy and great smile
can really light up any situation. Have a tight summer.
peace"

It seems like in the past weeks she has started to
like me. The thing is, she is one of the most liked girls at
our school, i always played it coo around her, jus being
friends (oh ya, i got the email). It's not like i'm a bad
looking guy either so... "was it the right thing for me to
right this?" yeah, and if i messed up and she is mad at me
or something what should i do to fix the situation w/out
sounding like a 6'3 tall wussy? "oh yeah, and "how do i kno
when these girls like me or not, they throw out mixed
signals" one day they're all over a brotha, next day
they're not talking to me...weird. Anywayz, if you can
understand my conumdrum and give me some advice, i would
be greatly apreciative.

Peace,

your friendly neighborhood black guy

It would be great. No more HARD SCHEDULING WORK for you!
You could just let them work it all out amongst themselves.

Now THAT'S thinking. I should send you a bill.

OK, look man... give me a break!

You want to have a lifestyle that almost NO men have,
but you don't like all the tough "scheduling work".

Either higher an assistant, or get over it.