Me- "Excuse me, MS, do you work here (I know she does not
work there)?"

She- "No."

Me- "Good, I want you to help me find this book [I don't
say, 'Can you please help me...' I go with a demand of
authority... they like it]."

She- "What book is that," she asked me, as she gave me
that wondrous look.

Me- "Wow, you are indeed gorgeous ... you remind me the
PowerPC girls (she would be shocked, but liking it). See,
my problem is that I am a very shy guy, and I am trying to
get over it."

She- "What do you mean you are shy? You don't seem shy to
me." (By the way, this happened to me in real life, and
she was hot for real)

Me- "Aren't you shy?"

She - "Yeah."

Me- "You don't seem shy to me either."

She- "It depends on the situation, and with the person you
are talking to. Whether or not you feel comfortable."

Yes, there is indeed a big difference between what you
have made of me now through the powerful insights expressed
in your newsletters, and who I was before I had met you. I
always thought that being nice, sweet, and courteous was an
ultimate-irrefutable way to get the girls we long to have,
but the irony is that we never make that dream come true.
Thanks my dear David, for showing me the Tao of being a
superb success with women, for walking with me hand by hand
through this mysterious path when it comes to women, because
really, most of the times they make no sense. I owe you my
present success with them, and I thank you in advance for
the foregoing prosperity that the future holds for me with
them.

I have always been funny, and separately, cocky. I never
put them together, like you put it, as a formula. So far,
that formula works. I am not a chemist, but the components
of our table salt, taken separately, is deadly to us.
Sodium and Chloride: death to us. Yet, if we put them
together, we will have its savory benefit. Same happens
when we use only being Cocky, and just being Funny: no
success, and it kills any possibilities of meeting girls.
When I talk to my friends about you, I say, "Guys, let's
make sure we use the Davidian formula, fusing the atoms of
Cockyness+Funny." Believe me, that is how we call it:
Davidian formula, lol. We have named it after you, because
you are its founder.

One of my favorite places to meeting people is
Barnes&Noble. It's easy to ignore someone you don't feel
attracted to, oh yes, very easy. It is all the opposite
when you do feel attracted to someone. Now, at Barnes&Noble,
in Downtown, I meet a lot of girls, from everywhere. Is
there a way to make fun of their beauty? I meet a lot of
hot girls, that seem to be perfect. My type are those with
Irish ascendance, because they are mostly honest and have
freckles. So, when I meet a girl with freckles, eyes like
a furious deep blue sea, or green eyes, like the stem of a
flower, petite women with attractively dainty build, nice
butt (we guys like it, come on), and round [breasts] (we
like that too). How can you make fun of that type of sexy
girl, when you notice that her body has a harmonious
symmetry, that does nothing but inspiring within you
pleasure and admiration?

I might feel nervous, but I don't show them my
nervousness. You have never told us not to feel nervous,
but not to behave nervous. I feel nervous, hell yeah, but
they can't tell. As a matter of a fact, one way I could
start a conversation with a hot girl is like this... e
of them don't work there)

4) Those that are only interested in a long-term
relationship. We also have the sub-categories here...
Those that object to the kids, and those that don't.

My first question to YOU is: "Which type of woman are
YOU looking for?"

Sounds to me like you're looking for a #3, option B...
a woman who's interested in some short-term fun, who would
like to pursue a long-term relationship if she meets a
good match... and is open to the kids. (If you're only
looking for a woman who's after short term fun, then the
kids don't really matter. Just don't bring them up.)

My perspective: Date some women, and BLOW THEIR MINDS
with the techniques you've learned. Use the Cocky and
Funny material... dial up the ATTRACTION... if you get
physical with them, make it UNFORGETTABLE.

My experience is that if a person is REALLY ATTRACTED
to another person, they'll put aside all obstacles in
order to be with the object of their desires.

Yes, this means 4 kids and an ex.

If I were you, I'd project the attitude that you're
not interested in any woman that can't adapt to the
situation. Communicate that YOU'RE the one doing the
selecting, and it will cancel out a woman's objections
before they even arise. Think about it.

If you're reading this right now, and you're in a
situation in life where you'd like to get back on track
and start having more success with women and dating,
then I'd recommend that you download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating." It contains all of my very
best ideas and techniques for attracting women, and I
think you'll find that it will DRAMATICALLY increase
your success with women and dating.

No matter what you do, you still must maintain a
balance.

So to answer your question about how to overcome
the objection to four kids...

First, realize that the women you're meeting fall
into roughly a few categories:

1) Those that aren't interested at all, no matter what.
Maybe they're gay, happily married, not interested...
or all of the above.

2) Those that are interested in being with you for some
short term fun, but aren't interested in a relationship
at all.

3) Those that are interested in short term fun while
they're single, but would like to pursue a relationship
if they meet a good match. Here we have two sub-
categories: A) Those that object to the four kids thing,
and B) Those that don't.

Go figure.

The point is that when you made the comment about
the qualities that make up "nice guy" don't really help
you out when it comes to women and dating, you REALLY
hit the nail on the head.

It's not that you have to be an abusive-loser-jerk, but
you must realize that there are certain qualities that
aren't what one might consider "nice-guyish" that PUSH
THE ATTRACTION BUTTONS inside of women.

These are the things like being Cocky and Funny,
teasing women, busting on them, and generally being a
challenge.

If you decide that a woman you've met is "long term"
relationship material, then you can start doing the
things that you'd do with someone who has earned your
respect and trust. It's at this point that doing "nice
guy" things makes more sense.

BUT WATCH OUT! Don't unexpectedly turn in to Mr.
Wussy just because a woman wants to have a relationship
with you. Nothing can make a woman want to be "just
friends" faster...

5) There are certain techniques that can be learned
which will help you get past the initial meeting and
dating period... and help you not only stand out as a
"not average" guy, but also create the magical emotion
of ATTRACTION inside women.

6) The great news is that you don't have to be ultra
handsome, rich, or famous to do it.

The gist of what I'm saying is that if you know how
to create this ATTRACTION inside of women, then you can
overcome just about any "social stigma" that might be
attached to you (yes, even 4 kids!).

Some people get upset when they read about my
techniques... they don't like the idea of making fun of
a woman, busting her balls, being Cocky and Funny, etc.

They just want to "be themselves" and have a woman
"like them for who they are".

Of course, these same guys ALMOST ALWAYS like to
buy women flowers and dinner, give compliments, accept
manipulative behavior... and generally do ALL KINDS OF
THINGS that I consider "very manipulative" and "not-at-
all-being-yourself" kinds of behavior.

Of course, not every man experiences things in exactly
the same way, but you can probably empathize with what
I'm saying.

Here's the deal:

I USED TO BE EXACTLY LIKE THIS. I know EXACTLY what
it's like to want a woman's attention but not know how
to get it... so I'd give compliments, offer gifts and
food, and try every other "nice" trick in the book.

I did this for a long time. Many years, in fact.

I used this strategy long enough to realize a few
key things:

1) Approaching women this way doesn't usually work. They
immediately sense your insecurity, and mentally classify
you as "average" and "like the other 10 guys that
approached her today", etc.

2) ATTRACTION is a completely illogical process.
ATTRACTION also isn't a choice. ATTRACTION is a response
to certain things... and it happens on it's own.

3) Being a good guy is an important part of life.
Treating others well and always doing the right thing
leads to things like: A) Liking yourself, B) Happiness,
C) Good friendships, etc.

4) Being a "nice guy" when it comes to women and dating,
especially when it is used enough to make you qualify as
a WUSSY is a REALLY REALLY BAD idea.

In your email you point out something very, very, VERY
interesting. You say:

"I've always considered myself a nice guy, considerate,
caring, etc. You know, how mother taught you to be.
I've realized that those qualities are great of course,
but don't help a lot in the dating scene."

Well said.

It is SO important that guys understand the distinction
between "dating scene" and "long-term relationship scene"
when it comes to women and interacting with them.

Many of the things that make a long-term relationship
great will KILL your chances INSTANTLY with a woman that
you don't know. I'll talk about this more in a moment.

I think that as guys, most of us want to do the right
thing, treat others well, and live with integrity.

There are, of course, exceptions to this rule, but I
think that most of us know at a very deep level that
treating others well, being honest, having integrity,
and living an authentic life leads to happiness... while
being dishonest, treating others poorly, putting our
integrity aside for selfish reasons, etc. leads to that
constant, negative, dragging state of body and mind.

The problem arises when we go out into the world to
find a mate. It matters not whether we're looking for a
wife or a one-night stand...

As soon as we see a really attractive woman, most of
us guys become nervous, self conscious, and insecure. We
feel excitement and fear at the same time. The first
impulse is to approach and give compliments in a way
that says "You are a beautiful goddess, and I am a mere
mortal man... Please, if you would, see your way clear
to give me a chance to show you how much I adore you."

If the goddess indulges us for a moment, the next
impulse is usually to provide gifts and food, and to
show her what a great provider we are.

On a side note. This is a strange success story here
(if you can consider it that haha). Like I said
before I was married, and she is a really beautiful
woman. Just for the hell of it I decided to start
using the c&f routine on her every chance I could (we
still get along pretty good as "friends", btw). I
thought it would be good "practice". Anyway, last
weekend I was over dropping off my kids, and she says
"JC". I said, "what?". I walk over to her bedroom
(where she was at) and she says out of the blue "get
on the bed now!" She was kidding and it threw me for
a loop, but I just said "in your dreams!" Shocked she
said, "WHAT?" I replied with, "maybe in our next
lifetime". I then proceeded to end the conversation
and leave quickly after that (had a date haha). Two
nights ago she calls me at home, and basically asked
me out. I said what the hell! So, we went out last
night (kids were at her sisters), and let's just say
that after 3 years of not having sex with her, I
forgot what I was missing!! So there's one for you,
"how to get your ex wife in bed with you again!!"
LMAO In case you're wondering, no way no how, will I
ever go back to that relationship (but sex on the
other hand..hell yes!). There's a different kind of
"success" story for you!

Hi,

I've read your newsletter for a few months now and
just recently got your book which is fantastic. First
off a little background here. I was married for 11
years (I'm 33) and basically was either dating or
married to same person for 13 years. I have been
divorced now for a few months, and was actually
separated for over a year before I got divorced.
Having been out of the dating scene for so long I was
pretty much clueless (a lot has changed). I've always
been a very funny guy and cocky to an extent, but in
many ways what you would consider a "wuss". I've
always considered myself a nice guy, considerate,
caring, etc. You know, how mother taught you to be.
I've realized that those qualities are great of
course, but don't help a lot in the dating scene. Once
I started more of the cocky routine, it's been
amazing. Like I said, I've always been funny so I
guess I have a head start already.

Anyway, I've had some really "hot" dates in the past
couple months with the help of your book, but one of
the biggest problems I have in getting dates is the
fact I have been divorced and have 4 kids. I don't
consider this a problem whatsoever, they're a huge
part of my life, but I know the way women think
sometimes and view this as "baggage". Is there any
advice you could give me on how I can incorporate some
of your philosophies and techniques into over coming
this persona of "baggage" and help me attract more
women?

Thanks again,

J.K. Michigan


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well what else can I say? I have to agree with you that
EVERY guy should buy this book.

It's taken me literally YEARS to figure all this stuff
out, and you can learn it all in a few hours of reading.

You'll learn everything from how to get your self image
in shape to how to approach women to how to take things
to a physical level without rejection.

Just to to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get yourself a copy. It's the best investment
you can make in your dating future... and it comes with
my 100% no-hassle money-back guarantee. If you're not
THRILLED with your investment, just email and ask for a
refund. It's that simple... and I'm that confident that
you're going to love it.


And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.




***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.

5) Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com

DATING TIP: "NICE" GUYS FINISH DATE-LESS
Q&A With David D.: Why Being A "Nice Guy" Doesn't Work When
It Comes To Dating... And What To Do About It


This week I got a great email from a guy who has gone
through an interesting process. He found himself single
after 11 years of marriage, and he's re-learning the skills
it takes to attract women. Even though most of us aren't in
this exact situation, I think you'll learn a lot from this
Q&A session... and the story has a great twist at the very
end... Enjoy!

***MORE SUCCESS***

You are the man! I am an 18 year old who just graduated
from high school, I downloaded your book about 2 months
ago. In that time I have gotten with 3 hot chicks and made
the 2 most gorgeous girls at my high school to dump their
boyfriends and come crawling to me just by busting their
balls WHENEVER I talk to them, or any girl, whether it be
online or in person. I have dated many girls, including the
2 gorgeous ones, and things would go good for awhile, but
then I would get wussy syndrome and they would give me the
boot. Now I am in total control of the girls from my school
and I cant wait to go to college this fall and use your
techniques to make the GORGEOUS girls come to me. I'll keep
ya posted about all the success I will have with college
chicks. I have more confidence than ever. Every guy should
buy this book.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You have harnessed one of the most important concepts for
creating ATTRACTION:

ANTICIPATION.

Women respond VERY powerfully to anticipation, and you've
used it masterfully.

You kept on teasing her with ideas, then leaning back and
not letting her know when things were going to progress.

Your short paragraph is an amazing example of what TO do.

Thanks for the story.

***SUCCESS STORY***

I met a woman through the internet. She had several pictures
and a good profile posted. I tried to keep our conversation
fun. I suggested that we meet some time for coffee or a
toddy. She told me she didn't want to meet me because I
would then stop sending her such great emails. I sent her
an email, "What makes you think they won't get better"? She
sent her phone number. I didn't ask to meet her again for about
a week. She mailed me and said, How will you know if you like
or don't like me?" I mailed back, "I will know when we touch".
I met her for a drink. I sat across from her. We talked for a
long time. Then I asked to see her hand. I took it in mine and
lightly kissed it. She was trembling. I went to the mens room
and when I returned I sat next to her. I touched and fondled
her hair and commented that it was pretty and she was also. I
reached for her hand again. She was trembling. I knew I could
safely kiss her then.

JB Little Rock, AR

***COMMENT***

Dave,

Just a quick note to say this stuff works just like pressing
a button. I have two teenage sons entering the dating world.
So, wanting to make sure they would be big "Mack daddies",
like their old man, I got your book. And of course I had to
preview all the material to insure quality and readability.
I laughed my a.. off! Even though I am happily married, I
could not resist using the C&F, just to mess with them.
Now I've got to stop! Ladies of all ages, some nearly half
my age (43), coming on to me. And I mean heavy duty
obsessions. I am AFRAID! Guys, be careful with this stuff!

Guy in Florida


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Amazing.

What's up with you being the coolest dad that I've personally
ever heard of in my entire life?!

Emails like this one actually warm my heart.

Of course, I love making fun of girly-men too, but this is
just out of control.

If you're a father of teenage boys, do them a favor and teach
them the skills they'll need later on.

At this stage you can weave ethics and responsibility into
the materials, and make sure that they learn how to use
the power with responsibility, rather than just learning
to be jerks later in life who abuse women.

It's a great idea.

Why is it that I tend to believe you more than the
girl at the beginning of this mailbag who was all upset
because I'm messing up her game?

As for your guy friend, I think he knows EXACTLY what's
going on.

And because he's not acting like a typical loser wienie
wussy boy, you're REALLY getting into him.

I think you should play hard to get a little more, and
start dating other guys, then tell HIM about it! See
what his reaction is. This will settle the matter for
you...

Thanks for your email, and don't forget the pictures.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

I starting reading your Dating Tips from a guy friend who
prints them out and has them at his house. Mostly for the
sake of curiosity and to see if you were really right. And
any girl that disagrees is totally not being honest, all
your stuff was right on. Your kiss test, perfect, the cocky
and funny attitude, I love, even if I act like I don't
sometimes. Your approach to women is exactly what girls
like. It's awesome how your helping guys out by sharing
your experience and giving them pointers so they can become
more confident. There is nothing less attractive than a
wuss, I will totally be into a guy until he starts acting
like a wuss and I loose all interest in him. I'm glad your
letting guys know that.

I don't know if you give advice to girls but, while I'm
writing, I have a really good guy friend, we hang out
probably twice a week (he always calls to hang out, I won't
call guys unless we are in a relationship) he
confuses the hell out of me. He'll tell me about his dates
and ask advice from me, which makes me think he just
considers me a friend. But then I'll be laying in his lap
and he'll be rubbing my head and playing with my hair. What
do you think he thinks of me? May seem like an obvious
answer but he really does confuse me. Hey, maybe he reads
your stuff.

Anyway, I thought I'd write and let you know that your
right on the money, which you probably already do know, but
I read that email from that other girl (the one with the
grammar and spelling problem) and was kind of ticked, she
obviously doesn't know what she's talking about and is
probably twelve by the way she was talking. Thanks for
helping all these guys out and telling them what we really
love!

V.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love honest women. You forgot to include your phone
number and several classy-yet-sexy pictures of yourself
with your email.

Put that in your pipe and smoke it.

In the land of female perception and interpretation,
things are strange. But if you can get it through your
head to stop trying to communicate directly and
explicitly most of the time, you'll do much better all
the way around.

If you say "I just want to be friends" a woman might
thing "What he REALLY means is that he's not attracted
to me... maybe there's something wrong here because
most men fall all over themselves. Maybe I don't look
good today. Maybe I'm losing my beauty. Oh yea? I'll
show him... I'm going to MAKE him feel attracted to me!"

Whatever.

Thanks for the email, and maybe you're going to have to
beat all those guys off with a stick.

I know, I know, but sometimes I just can't help myself...


***QUESTION***

I met a lady and was funny and cocky, but I was too
forward about sex and she blew me off. The next time I
met her, I said "I only want to be friends", then I
gave her a foot, leg and a head rub. She allowed me to
continue this as I explained why we could only be
friends. I later gave the kiss test and it was fireworks
from there. My question is: Why did telling her I only
wanted to be friends totally change how she reacted to
me?

Confused and Satisfied.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, don't get me started on why reverse psychology works
with women...

Here's a little insight for you:

WOMEN DON'T GENERALLY TAKE ANYTHING AT FACE VALUE, THEY
ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT EVERYTHING "MEANS".

In other words, if you say "You're beautiful" a woman
might think "What he REALLY means is that he wants to
get into my pants".