***SUCCESS STORY***

David, I've only had your book for a few days now, and it's
paying off. Let me preface by saying that I've been able to
do the cocky-funny thing my whole life, but somehow believed
that I had to keep it in check and be a 'nice guy' in order
for women to really fall for me (Ouch!). Anyway, I've seen
lots of people ask you about how to get dates with
waitresses or bartenders etc. and thought I'd share: Friday
night I'm playing a gig with a band at a local venue, so I
show up early for soundcheck. There's [an attractive]
waitress there, and she starts talking to me (Didn't even
have to worry about approaching her!) so I decide to pour
it on. It went something like this:

Her: "God, I'm tired. I need to take a nap."

Me: "Well, you can't sleep here or we'll have to ask you to
leave. You know, I've been sitting here waiting for 5 minutes
for you to get me another drink. No tip fior you, I guess."

Her, laughing: "OK, hold your horses." (gets drink) "So
what's your name?" (introduces herself)

Me: "Oh, trying to pick me up already, huh? You know I hardly
know you, and I don't give my phone number out to strangers."

Her, laughing, looking at me in disbelief: "That's bullsh**!
I'm just trying to be nice!"

Me: "Sure you are. Well, if you insist, you can give me your
number. I mean, who knows, maybe we can be friends?"

Bingo.

MY COMMENTS:

Well, I don't think you have anything to worry about. My
guess isn't that being a wussy is EVERY going to make the
ladies feel attracted to you.

And it's going to be a loooooong time before enough guys
in this world learn how to actually make women feel
ATTRACTION. I think you're going to be OK.

***COMMENT***

I'm not sure whether to thank you or berate you. You may
not realize this, but while you are helping thousands of
clueless guys you are also hurting the entire male
population by raising the bar. The more mentally attractive
guys there are out there, the less attractive they all seem.
If everyone drove a Ferrari, then Ferraris would be as boring
and commonplace as a cheap Ford, no matter how physically
beautiful the car is. No one wants boring and commonplace.
That's partially why C&F is so attractive to women (As if you
didn't already know this). Now I know that you're barely
making a dent in the population of wusses out there, but word
is beginning to spread. You might consider toning down your
marketing or not giving out so many of the info gems. Or you
may ruin everything you're working for. Can you imagine a
world where wusses are the attractive ones... just because
they're different? The thought makes me shudder. Anyway,
I'd give you a success story but I think I've said enough.
If you start cloning Jedi, then you'll have a clone war on
your hands.

-BJS in Houston

MY COMMENTS:

Phew. That was kind of intense.

Clearly the words of a guy who's been there.

I would like to comment on one thing. You said something
in the middle that stood out as a gem:

"Absence of fear (calmness) and indifference (self control)
eliminates a woman's psychological control."

This is a profound thought. I think that men everywhere
need to get this idea at a deep level.

I was listening to India Arie's album, which I think is
pretty cool (As Butthead would say "Chickth Dig It").

She has a song on the album called "Back To The Middle".

I think that us guys tend to get too far to one extreme
or the other when it comes to women.

We either see them as "innocent girls" who just need a guy
to be nice, buy them dinner, protect them, etc. in order
to get their love and approval...

Or we see them as cold, hardened, ice-hearted control
freaks who emotionally and psychologically manipulate us.

My experience is that most women fall in the middle of
this range, and they will act differently in different
situations. If you act like a wussy, call 47 times a day,
devote yourself to her, and become a complete emotional
suckerfish, she's likely to get so repulsed that she'll
walk all over your sensitive little feelings with her
stiletto heels.

If you she favors you and becomes emotionally attached,
then you take advantage of her and abuse her emotionally
and psychologically, then you might see the more frail
and weak side.

On the other hand, if you "Come back to the middle" and
cultivate more indifference while lessening your
insecurity, you can bypass a lot of this extreme and
unhealthy stuff.

"Absence of fear (calmness) and indifference (self control)
eliminates a woman's psychological control."

T.W- the Phoenix

P.S. Me....well, I burned out about five years ago, and hope
to eventually rise from the ashes to re-enter the
psychological arena and do battle once again.

Hello David,

Much of your information is insightful, and educational.
However, I think the heart of the matter in regards to men's
fear of women, is the fact that men see what attracts them
in a woman, only it requires a theatrical performance that
puts them on stage. The real fear is a result of one's own
inner psychology working against their conscious brain, that
if the verbal presentation isn't met with approval then the
result is personal rejection by a woman who meant so much in
one's own mind, which is taken personally due to it's sexual
ramifications, an absence of sex. Comedians call it shtick,
and without a well rehearsed comedic routine, then there
indeed is something to be nervous about. Women are very much
like a rabid dog, keenly smelling fear and able to inflict
personal pain, the key is to approach not only without fear,
but with indifference so as not to get bit with total
rejection. Men are better at dealing with physical scars
than the psychological ones, which take far longer to heal,
and some don't. Unlike a man, women are totally unforgiving,
and every man knows this, and this is the "fulcrum of fear",
knowing we are coming in for the approach without power and
it must be done to her unknown mental terrain... right now.
The difficulty for women is the fact that society places
beauty on a pedestal, which automatically inflates their ego
far beyond what they can handle. Pretty girls get off on
rejecting men, it feeds the ego quite nicely. It's the
equivalent of the school bully beating up all the other boys,
only women do it psychologically using their beauty and then
rejection. And unlike the physical presence of a battered
victim, the feelings are invisible and go unnoticed, without
any regard for the psychological result. Absence of fear
(calmness)and indifference (self control)eliminates a woman's
psychological control. This power is what they are born with
if attractive. Combine this with a biological hormonal
imbalance and you have... a beautiful rabid bad dog. They
are also in a unique circumstance that is making them more
dysfunctional with the progression of time especially in the
United States. They are gaining more power in the world as
playing the role that men have (psychological strength), and
yet are to be receptive sexually to a man's advances
(psychological submissive). This is a total dichotomy whose
result is confusion in their own minds and rejection feeds
the new power that fuels the immediate psychological
satisfaction through self gratification. This is far more
prevalent in the industrial countries than in the third
world, where a woman's naked breast is a thing of beauty
that is not even noticed. Here in the U.S. a nude breast is
taboo, and met with nervous arrest. Thus the difficulty in
attempting to communicate with the opposite sex is three
dimensional, being biological, psychological, and cultural.
Did I mention their interests are the opposite of most men?
Don't get me started....

MY COMMENTS:

This is a fantastic observation. When you are "in the zone"
with your Cocky and Funny, and you're really being an
interesting challenge while at the same time making her
laugh, you'll get all kinds of amazing responses.

It's not uncommon to have a woman say "I've never met
anyone like you before". It's true they usually haven't!

Most guys kiss up to them, act fake, try to buy them
dinners and gifts to get their attention, and generally
act like Wuss-Bags.

Some see Cocky and Funny as being "too manipulative",
but when it's done right it's the opposite. It's learning
how to be fun, interesting, challenging, and magnetic.

And your question of "What am I going to get in return"
is must magic. It catches women totally off guard... and
it's charming. It's very suggestive, while still being
classy. Great job.

Thanks for your email.

Oh, don't stress about it.

If I were in your situation, I'd tell women something like:

"OK, do you have a car? Good, because my lease just ended
and I'm between cars... and a woman without a car just
isn't an option for me."

Turn it around and make it something funny! Make it a
qualification that a woman has to meet...

I would. Great opportunity for Cocky and Funny!



***QUESTION***


Hi David -

DYD, and your newsletter, rock!

I was wondering if you are planning any seminars that might
be closer to where I am than L.A.? I am based in Tokyo,
Japan...

How about Hawaii?

B.T.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I'm getting GREAT feedback for the New York seminar,
and I'd love to do others.

I've gotten emails from all around the world saying "Come
do a seminar in Australia" etc.

I would have to have enough guys coming for it to make
sense, because doing a seminar costs more than one might
think. And doing one on the other side of the world from
me would be pricey.

OK, for kicks I set up a few email addresses to get some
feedback (I just did it on the spot). If you'd be interested
in attending a seminar with me, do this:

1. Go to http://www.doubleyourdating.com/seminar/ and read
about the seminar, price, and details.

2. Send an email to one of the following addresses to let
me know which you'd be interested in attending:

Australia: auseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Europe: europeseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Japan: japanseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Hawaii: hawaiiseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Chicago: chicagoseminar@doubleyourdating.com

Again, go read about the seminar, then email one of the
above addresses to tell that you'd be interested in
attending... thanks!



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave!

Just wanted to say that your C+F techniques work like magic -
they have such a strong impact that sometimes a girl can just
say "I love you" literally half an hour into the conversation.
or things like "you are the only person who seems to
understand me", or "i've never met anyone like you before!"
I especially like situations when they ask you for some favor
like a drink, to take them out to a club/bar, or simply to
hold something... immediately I say .."... And what am I
gonna get in return?" They freeze for a sec and then usually
say: "A hug", "a kiss", "or anything you like" lol depending
on the situation I may say "Nah, not good enough..." and then
say "go do it yourself" or something along the lines.
Anyways, I was sitting in one pizza place with one of these
chicks and she asked me to take her to some exclusive place
I know and I said my phrase (above). I was expecting she'd
say "anything you like when we get there" but instead she
backfired: "ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!" - I froze for a sec - and
then I said that it wasn't good enough... lol and she nodded
and smiled (it's like she knew I was in the game) but still,
it was the first time I heard such a response and I was
wondering what you would say the best response is to this
sort of situations/comments! Everyone get the Book! It's a
treasure!!

B.

Dave, I want to thank you for your book and for always
answering my questions. Since reading your book, I have been
working out, dressing nicer, and attracting women. I am only
5'5 but, when I am using your techniques women seem to focus
more on my build, clothes, and personality rather than how
short I am. My question is; my car lease is ending and since
I won't have a car for a while, how will I be able to date
women? The meeting and attracting I am beginning to master,
but how do I take a women out on date and what to I say to
them if I don't have a car or access to one. Thanks for all
your help and everyone should go buy this book. It is
awesome!

Hi,

Could you give an Cocky and Funny example answering "What
time is it?" from an obviously interested (well, more or
less) chick?

DJ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

I think it's a great idea to come up with some great
comebacks for common situations like this. Think them
through.

There are probably 10 or 20 situations where women start
talking to you, and you should be ready for all of them.

To answer your specific question... try these:

"I will tell you the time, but I just want to let you
know that I see right through your little ploy to meet me.
I realize that you probably don't see such attractive
men often, but you didn't have to use such an obvious
line to meet me."

"It's time for you to get a watch."

"What an unoriginal pickup line."

...now come up with 10 of your own. And come up with
others for the other common situations where women start
talking to you.



***SUCCESS STORY***

i juz thought u might like to hear about a very recent
success story...earlier today actually....i was in school
(college summer classes) not plannin on pickin up girls at
all....i mean i was there in basketball shorts and
slippers, wut can i say, i was tired, i didnt feel like
gettin all dressed up for school...well anyways...on to the
story....there was this new girl there, id hafta rate her
about an 8, the body was bangin....neways i went outside the
class to work and so did she so i layed deep into the C&F.
like soon as the door closed im all "why u following me?
geez" well we got to talkin cuz as we all know...bookwork
is very boring...after about an hour shes all "take me to
lunch, i'm buying" so i was like "naw i got a lotta book
work to do u need to get to work slacker" and that did it.
she was like "be a slacker with me, cmon, please??" it was
great so after awhile of her begging i went out and let her
buy me lunch....well i juz thought u'd like to hear yet
another success story.

J.B. Nor Cal

>>>MY COMMENTS:

One of the greatest things you can do is play hard to
get when a woman is doing something uncharacteristic...
like offering to buy you lunch or take you out.

It's ESPECIALLY powerful if the woman is unusually
attractive. Attractive women have NO IDEA what to do
when a man isn't being a typical wussy... it creates
a situation that is both mysterious and challenging to
the woman.

I've had plenty of success in my day when I was not all
dressed up. When you're dressed casually and it's obvious
that you don't care what others think... AND you're being
Cocky and Funny is kind of says "I am a person that has
power regardless of my appearance". It's powerful.



***QUESTION***


Dear Dave,

Your techniques are right on target. Your guidelines
helped me become successful on everything from approaching
women to being confident and having fun doing it. I went
from the nice guy "wussy" that women practically ignored, to
something along the lines of well, a player! The cocky
funny routine matches with my sarcastic personality and
women cant seem to get enough of it.

Ok, well Ive done the routine and picked from about the
10 hottest girls and now have a very hot g/f , but now there
is a dilemma. My chemistry teacher now wants me, Im dead
sure of it (shes only 3 years older than me). But this is one
of the biggest challenges ive ever come across and I think
it needs your expert opinion. First, she is every guys
fantasy and a 10,000 on the 1-10 hotness scale...(yeah the
girl is that hot) The problem is she definitely knows this.
I have heard many guys hit on her and she has shot all of
them down, I heard it with my own ears. She already asked
me indirectly twice if I was going to a local place to watch
a game, unfortunately I couldn't make it both times. And it
seems like the more I ignore her the more she flirts. I want
to build the tension to the absolute highest level before I
decide to show the slightest bit of interest, how do I do
this effectively?...

Your Friend,

J.R.
New Jersey

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hm. Yea. I think I know what to do.

I think that it's just too dangerous for you to start
something with your teacher. And if she's this attractive
there's only one thing I can think of to do.

I'm going to be in New York in September doing a seminar,
and I would be willing to do you the personal favor of
coming to N.J. and escorting this woman myself. I'll handle
it, and you won't have to worry about her anymore.

I'd do that for you, since we're friends and all...

OK, try this:

Next time she asks you where you're going, just say
"Isn't it against the rules for you to keep asking me
these kinds of questions?" and give her a sly smile.

Then laugh, and say "Hey, do you have email?"

Get her email, and write her an email that says:

"Hey, I'm busy today and tomorrow, but I might have some
time this weekend. Maybe we should have a cup of tea and
some stimulating conversation... and you can help me with
my homework."

That should do the trick.

Oh, and if you decide that you just aren't up to it and
don't want to risk it, let me know. I'm here for you.

A CRACK HOUSE.

Wow, I could work with this material all day. If I can
stop laughing maybe I'll dig up your other emails that
you've sent me since this one for the next mailbags... I
couldn't imagine better material if I tried.

I'm reconsidering right now.

Oh, already came to a decision... I was right on.

And you know, I really think your idea of me turning over
this "column" to a woman is a great idea. Maybe you could
handle it for me?

Let me guess, you're actually writing this from your laptop
inside the "Carter" building... you know, the one in New
Jack City that was taken over by gangsters and converted
into... what else?

Yea, ALL of my shy friends feel compelled to start
conversations with strangers by lying. It's a fundamental
part of the "shyness" complex.

CRACK PIPE PLEASE.

Oh, and this "woman's delicate psyche" B.S. is really
nice. How nice of you to frame all women as "delicate
psychological flowers" who are wrongfully injured by
brutally interesting men who bust on them.

And to wrap up, you go with:

"I urge you to reconsider the advice given to that
man. I am not the only one to say this. Maybe you should
quit writing this column and give the job to a woman!!!"

Yea, you're right...

[I didn't include my answer, because it was a few pages
long... as you may remember]

So let's consider your first comment of:

"First of all, the comment insinuates that the woman is
a lesbian, or does not deserve a decent guy in her life.
Lesbians in this country are in a minority and their rights
are protected by law. All women have the right to choose
their partner, whether male or female. Women also have the
right to choose the most compatible male available. This
person, in my friends opinion, does not deserve the time of
the day from that particular woman for being so insulting
to her face."

Lesbians are a minority? The comment insinuates that she's
a lesbian? Women have the RIGHT to choose the "most
compatible male available"?

Can I ask you PLEASE PASS ME THE CRACK PIPE, because it's
obviously some good stuff. I mean, you MUST be high.

My comments are only taking away from the beautiful
comedy that you've already created in this heartfelt
paragraph, so I'll continue with your next...

"Second, the comment slaps the woman in the face.
The woman at the gym may have problems finding and keeping
a boyfriend. She may be shy. That comment is a good way to
injure a woman's delicate psyche."

The only problem that the woman at the gym was having is
the ability to TELL THE TRUTH! Hell, she opened her
mouth and lied to a complete stranger without even being
spoken to.

The reason she might have a problem "finding and keeping a
boy friend" is that she's a liar! I don't know a lot of
people that feel compelled to lie to people they've never
met or spoken to, but this is a little red flag, in my
humble opinion. And it's surely NOT a sign of SHYNESS.

LOL! You're killing me.

I knew she noticed but it never bothered me cause I had no
intentions of acting. Well, I had to go over to get a set
of dumbbells for my next exercise and as I got close to
where she was she suddenly turned around and said "I have
a boyfriend" and turned around. Normally I would have kinda
stood there in shock and said nothing but, I guess all that
mental practice paid off. With out even thinking or pausing
the words just came out. I said "Hey that's great I am happy
for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is
probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a
the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go
telling every stranger you see." Then I just walked off
with my weights to do my sets. 5 min later she comes over
to me and apologizes and asks for my number. Turns out she
didn't have a boyfriend but was just tired of being picked
up by losers while she was trying to do a workout. Thanks
for the pleasant surprise!